Inspired by the variety of questions people ask when they first begin therapy, this is the first in a series of short posts aimed at helping you to get the most out of your counselling sessions.
New clients often ask ‘what should I talk about in my counselling sessions?’ The short answer, of course, is that you can talk about anything you like. Absolutely anything at all. This is the joy of the therapeutic relationship: the counsellor is there to think about you whilst you are there to think about…, well, you. You won’t get this in any other relationship in your adult life, so you may as well make the most of it. Talk about your boss, your neighbour, your partner, your cat or that woman off Waking the Dead that reminds you of your mother but is a bit nicer. You talk about whatever it is – and I mean whatever – that is taking up your attention right now. It might be a specific problem – this is why you have come to counselling in the first place, after all – but it might just be something that is sitting at the front of your mind and you don’t really know why you keep thinking about Steve from accounts. That’s why you are coming to counselling – to let someone else help you to make sense of things.
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